This is the big word we can not deny in our everyday life: LOVE. Some get scared out of it and most live by it. But if you really ask yourself: Is Love good for you or is it not? Most people would right away say that it’s a good thing. But those who say yes rarely know why it’s good.
They say it’s good ‘cause everyone else says it’s good. If it’s so good then why you often feel hurt because of love. People get divorced everyday, couples broke up, spouse cheating on each other, a father and his son fighting, mothers abandon their child, and so on. Now, love suddenly becomes the greatest enemy ‘cause it hurts. Love Hurts.
The expression of “Love Hurts” totally contradicts to what always have been believed that love is a good thing. Anything that hurts you must be BAD, right? Suddenly we get confused is love good for you or actually bad. People who divorced don’t believe anymore in love and so as to those who broke up with their couples, abandoned by their family, and other “Love Hurts” experiences. More and more people are afraid and are losing their FAITH toward loving. They begin to question the commitment to love.
What will I get at the end?
Is loving really worthwhile after all?
We’ve all been there.
The answer came to me a couple years back and still lives by it ‘till today. That only makes sense if you stop and think about it. When we love someone, we put our highest hope to that person. Hope that the person will say I love you, hope that the person will give you flowers, hope that the person will never shout at you, hope that the person will put you at the first priority on top of everything else…and on…and on – until that person will become 100% according to your ideal expectation.
And when the day comes that one or more hope is broken, that’s when you feel love hurts you. We can hope in a variety kind of ways from the simplest form of saying “I love you” to the extreme side of “don’t talk to anyone else except me.” Suddenly before we realize, our expression of love has become the ideal expectation of our own ego. Do we really believe that to love is to put the loved one behind a cage of our own ego and idealistic?
LOVE DOES NOT HURT; HOPE HURTS
OUR EGO HURTS OURSELVES
LOVE IS GOOD
To be able to love is one’s amazing gift. To love then you must hope. But remember, too much hope will hurt you. Balance it. Balance between your own expectation and your loved one’s true nature. Only then you will learn to respect each other. Learn to accept things the way they are. Not everything that we know is good is actually good in other situation or on other person. A good hair style according to you may not fit for the style of your loved one. A good movie for you may not be good for others. We have so many differences from one person to another.
Learn to balance it, then you will find your life and love balanced itself for you.
Love in its pure form does not heart. But expectations from love hurts